Clarify Your Values Without the Fluff: A Data-Driven Method

Clarify your values with a data-driven method to find your core values and identify what really matters. This episode breaks down a practical, evidence based self help framework using behavioral data self reflection instead of fluffy word lists. You’ll walk away with a concrete personal values exercise you can actually use to align life with values starting this week.

What You'll Learn:

• How to clarify your values without the fluff by analyzing your real behavior instead of filling out abstract value word-lists
• A step-by-step values clarification method using one to two weeks of data on how you spend your time, money, and attention
• How to code your daily activities into meaningful value categories and spot patterns in what you actually prioritize
• A simple scoring system (frequency and impact) to surface your top five “lived values” from your behavioral data
• How to use forced-choice techniques like pair-wise comparison or 80/20 analysis to narrow down to three core “operational values”
• Common misconceptions about values (e.g., aspirational vs. lived values) and how to avoid self-deception in self reflection
• How to translate your three operational values into small, practical personal development experiments this week
• A quick end-of-episode exercise to capture key insights, choose one life area to focus on, and define one tiny action step

Episode Content:

• 00:00 - Introduction: why most values exercises feel vague, fluffy, and forgettable
• 04:12 - The core idea: your real values are revealed by your behavior, not your intentions
• 08:25 - How to collect one to two weeks of simple behavioral data (time, money, and attention)
• 13:47 - Turning raw data into value categories: a simple coding method anyone can use
• 19:30 - Using frequency and impact scoring to surface your top five “lived values”
• 25:05 - Forced-choice prioritization: pair-wise comparison and 80/20 thinking to find your three “operational values”
• 31:18 - Debunking five common misconceptions about personal values and self improvement
• 37:40 - Designing small, low-friction experiments to better align life with your values
• 43:15 - Recap: write down the method, pick one area of life, and choose one tiny action for this week